5 Year Old Fined for Missing Friend's Birthday Party
January 20, 2015 by

As soon as I saw this news story on TV, I looked at my husband. If only...

OK, so it was the PARENTS of the 5 year old who were fined. But, could you believe this? I will be completely honest, I have thought about billing friends and family members who RSVP'd for my anniversary party and were no shows on the day of the event. At $65 a plate, I was pissed to say the least, but I wouldn't actually do that. It's annoying and seemingly disrespectful when people say they'll be there and you plan accordingly, but come on! It's not the end of the world.

My kids have had multiple parties and about 1/2 of the guest list would not respond. For every 50 people I invite, I assume only 25 will attend (but plan for more) so we're never too disappointed. I specifically put on invitations to "Please RSVP so we can plan accordingly" and I DO NOT include the location. This way, if someone is interested in attending, they will have to call me to get the address and RSVP at the same time. That prevents uninvited guests, or those who didn't RSVP from popping up!
What usually happens is friends who do come, invite friends (a sibling, cousin, neighbor) of their own (with my permission) which helps me maintain a healthy bunch. I have even had parents call me the morning of the party asking if their child can attend because their original plans fell through. That would probably upset some parents, because it seems like an after thought, but I don't mind, the more the merrier and the purpose of the parties are for my kids to have a great time celebrating an occasion. My ego can take a back seat!

Could you imagine mailing a bill to the parents of kids who did not come to your child's birthday party, and threatening them with a trip to small claims court if they do not pay? That takes balls! Would you do it?

I hope they do go to court and the judge bills the Mom for the court fees, and a day's pay for the Dad who had to miss work for a frivolous law suit!

As annoying as it is for someone to say they're coming to birthday party and skip it as if it doesn't matter, we have to realize our special day may not be so special to others. Also, people may actually forget. It's a party, and it may be hard work decorating, planning and saving up for the hosts, but it isn't a job for guests. An RSVP is an acknowledgement and response, but there are no guarantees.