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Ronda Manzo - Coldwell Banker Residential Real Estate - Real Estate Agent in Port St Lucie, FL

This Christmas

December 12, 2014 by Ronda

Have you ever come across a post on social media that changed the way you see your world? I did, just this week. I came across a post on my newsfeed that showed dirty, rough hands. It had a story attached, that always piques my interest, so I read it and it hit me hard. My husband and I do so much for our kids so they never go without, but they never get a chance to see the work that goes into providing for them.

Thinking of all the attractions we have visited since their birth, hotels, resorts, dinners, electronics they own, etc. we're doing something almost weekly. I don't feel guilty for giving them things and taking them places, but I do regret not allowing them to earn many things they get. We give too freely.

Do you have that problem too?

I'm torn. We teach kids that material things can be replaced and they do not matter the way people matter. But, how do we teach them that although items can be replaced, those items still have a value and people work hard in order to buy them?

My 8 year old (6 at the time of this incident) has had a really nice baseball cap, and a really nice jacket "go missing" while at school. He carelessly left it in the cafeteria and came home without it. Of course, I did not expect to find it in the lost and found, and when I checked the next morning I was sadly proven right. From that incident I've learned to start deducting the cost to replace items from his piggy bank. That hurt him...briefly. The problem is he is given money by family members. Doing chores for an allowance isn't as important, because Grandparents and other loved ones want to indulge them without them doing anything but being kids. Hey, I have the same issue as their mom. My son at 8 years old has left his Sony PSP in cars, forgets about it for a week

and doesn't even think about it until someone comes across the games while cleaning their car. This is ridiculous. Thinking of all the time I spent going back and forth with Sony to have it repaired. We've received two replacements, not to mention the money and effort on my behalf as well as Sony's. Something has got to change...starting with me!

This Christmas, I will be doing something different. We usually give new undies, socks, pjs and cool toys to our kids. In addition to whatever family members purchase for them. But, I've come to realize my kids have too much. They have toys in toy boxes AND original boxes that they have not touched in a long time, if ever! I'm regifting and reintroducing them to what they already have. Some toys will be donated.

This Christmas, the only electronics they will have, are the ones they already own. Our "new" additions will be the board games I've been collecting and a globe since they love learning about countries. This way, they can match country shapes and locations to the country flags they've been studying. After all, every kids deserves to have something under the tree. But getting my boys something expensive and similar to what they already have, makes no sense. How many kiddie tablets, remote control vehicles, legos or toy laptops can kids own?

This Christmas, no more having to remind them to clean up the table after they eat. At 5 I was washing dishes, my kids at 6 and 8 are old enough to clean up after themselves when they eat and make a mess with crumbs. They can sweep and vacuum. From now on, when they anxiously want to help us wash the car, I'm going to proudly hand them the car vac and let them get to work.

Father is a Blacksmith

Reposted from Facebook: Carol Gonzalez

A young man went to seek an important position at a large printing company. He passed the initial interview and was going to meet the director for the final interview. The director saw his resume, it was excellent. And asked, "Have you received a scholarship for school?" The boy replied, "No".

D - It was your father who paid for your studies?
B - Yes, He replied.
D - Where does your father work?
B - My father is a Blacksmith

The Director asked the young to show him his hands.
The young man showed a pair of hands soft and perfect.

D - Have you ever helped your parents at their job?
B - Never, my parents always wanted me to study and read more books. Besides, he can do the job better than me.

The director said: "I have got a request: When you go home today, go and wash the hands of your father and then come see me tomorrow morning."

The young felt his chance to get the job was high. When he returned to his house he asked his father if he would allow him to wash their hands. His father felt strange, happy, but with mixed feelings and showed their hands to his son. The young washed his hands, little by little. It was the first time that he noticed his father's hands were wrinkled and they had so many scars. Some bruises were so painful that his skin shuddered when he touched them.
This was the first time that the young man recognized what it meant for this pair of hands to work every day to be able to pay for his study. The bruises on the hands were the price that he paid for their education, his school activities and his future.

After cleaning his father's hands the young man stood in silence and began to tidy and clean up the workshop. That night, father and son talked for a long time.

The next morning, the young man went to the office of the director.
The Director noticed the tears in the eyes of the young when He asked him:

D - Can you tell me what you did and what you learned yesterday at your house?

The boy replied: "I washed my father's hands and when I finished I stayed and cleaned his workshop. Now I know what it is to appreciate and recognize that without my parents, I would not be who I am today. By helping my father I now realize how difficult and hard it is to do something on my own. I have come to appreciate the importance and the value in helping the family."

The director said, "This is what I look for in my people. I want to hire someone who can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the hardship of others to do things, and a person who does not put money as his only goal in life". You are hired!"

A child that has been coddled, Protected and usually given him what he wants, develops a mentality of " I have the right ' and will always put himself first, ignoring the efforts of their parents. If we are this type of protective parent are we really showing love or are we destroying our children?

You can give your child a big house, good food, computer classes, watch on a big screen TV. But when you're washing the floor or painting a wall, please let him experience that too.

After eating have them wash the dishes with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you have no money to hire someone to do this it's because you want to love them the right way. No matter how rich you are, you want them to understand. One day your hair will have gray hair, like the father of this young man.

The most important thing is that your child learns to appreciate the effort and to experience the difficulties and learn the ability to work with others to get things done."

They still won't be receiving an allowance since they get money elsewhere anyway, but at least they will learn to earn their keep, lol.

After all, when they're older and want an allowance, I can just send them outside to wash the car since they'll already know how to do it! :)

I have multiple jobs, my husband has multiple jobs and no longer can our kids only be responsible for doing what they're supposed to in school and keeping their rooms clean. They need more responsibility. Yep, that's it! For Christmas, they're getting responsibility!!! I think I'm going to wrap it up and put it under the tree! Merry Christmas to them!